Teach your toddler to say ” Thank you”! Teach toddlers to be grateful and raise them happy!
More and more frequently I meet parents who forget to remind their toddler to say Thank you. I often hear that there is no need for that, when, behold, it is not some big things at stake … And really, it is not a big deal, but we all know that life consists of small things … and gratefulness, you will agree, is not a trifle.
Gratefulness, who needs that? My child deserves more than it has, no need to say Thank you
If this is something that you will say, I must tell you that you are mistaken. What’s more, it’s not just my opinion!
According to a study from 2014, published in School Psychology Review, in a study conducted in a group of 122 scholars in primary schools for two weeks, the students learned about the concept of selflessness and their subjective feeling of gratitude is twice increased.
More than that, the act of thanksgiving, gives tangible results. In a study among children of school age who were writing down five things they are grateful for during three weeks, it was noted that they had better school performance during further education. Besides, they showed greater satisfaction with their lives compared to children from the group who were writing five things they do not like during the same period.
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Scientists have published the results of the judges during 2008 and during the experiment followed the two groups of 110 students.
At a later stage, a study conducted on high school students showed that those students who had a higher level of appreciation had better test scores, lower levels of depression and envy, as well as the optimistic outlook on life and the world. In addition, grateful teens had a significantly higher threshold of tolerance or the so-called tolerance for frustration.
On the other hand, teens who are happiness associated with acquiring and possessing material things were more prone to depression and pessimism.
To have and to be -is no longer a dilemma!
Erich Fromm has written about it long time ago and the best way to look at your position in relation to his ideas is to ask yourself-What do I want: To have a good child or to be a good parent? To have a high salary or to be an expert on my field? In his work, From has repeatedly stressed the crippling of the human psyche with the consumer mentality. But where is the relationship between philosophy and raising children, you may ask.
Growing up is a journey, and every journey begins with small steps!
So small that sometimes we do not pay attention to them. In the immense love for our children, we believe that they deserve everything and more than that!
We don’t teach them gratitude, apologizing if they have to wait.In Western civilization, which is characterized by the excessive protection of children, parents of teenagers are most often complain about the lack of empathy and gratitude at their own children. Parents often forget that they didn’t teach their kids to be patient, hard-working and grateful. More often, parents forget that children learn by observing and that for them, our actions speak louder than our words.
The magic words Thank you
When you teach your child to say: Thank you, when this simple word becomes part of his daily vocabulary, they will learn to pay attention to the hard work that other people invest in mutual communication. This way you teach your child to appreciate others’ efforts. This is especially good for your children. This short phrase is the foundation in building an optimistic attitude man whose glass is always half full. Don’t we all want it for our children?
A simple “Thank you” game
Kids today, from an early age easily come to the realization of their desires. Psychologists believe that so there is no wishful thinking or a dream about something that’s out of reach. Yet from an early age, it is possible to introduce “thank you” into children’s vocabulary, through funny games.
A game that follows I often play with my youngest son.
We sit on the floor or a table, close to each other. In front of us are toys which toddler can lift with the one hand. When he chooses it , took in his hand and started to put it in mouth (we are now in the phase of discovering the world by the taste, but you can skip that part), I say- Please, let me see. I stretch out my hand. If he doesn’t give it to me, I repeat my request. Remember that toddlers are great in understanding non-verbal communication.
When he gives me the toy, I always say Thank you and close my hand. Then I give it back and say – Here you are. He tries to say Thank you but still skip sometimes. Very quickly you will notice Thank you among the first words of your toddler!
Be a good example
I already wrote that children learn by observing. If you do not already have the habit of saying Thank you, make sure that you develop. Say Thank you when others do something for you. And that is not only for dear people, say Thank you to the mom on the playground that makes you a place on the bench and a shopkeeper in the market. Say Thank you to the people around you and that will brighten up your everyday life. In addition, you will be a great example for your toddler.
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And most importantly in all, enjoy every moment with your toddlers!